Perfect Authentic Me

How You Are So Much More Than Chronic Illness

I remember my first time.. Do you remember yours? 

When your doctor explained you had a chronic illness? Receiving that conclusive and convincing confirmation can often be a mixture of shock, disbelief and dread.

Suddenly your whole world is different. You’re confronted with instant fear. You have tons of questions. And you leave with so much uncertainty.

You ask yourself: what now? What’s going to happen next? Will my body deteriorate more and more? Will I be able to continue work?

Personally I was in a positive and naïve state of disbelief, as I would describe it. I just thought, okay, well, just give me a pill or some kind of remedy and I’ll be fine. It will be over. Not strange really, considering that this is how it happened before in the past when I experienced little ailments.

The fact that this was labelled chronic and meant, in conventional medical terms, not curable, was something my brain did not compute with. I was stunned if anything, because I had been very healthy all that time.

But what hit me the most, and I believe is what influences all who are confronted with this kind of experience the most, is the certainty and authority of the doctors and specialists who tell you (quite often!) that there is no cure and that it is indefinite.

This is what causes a major problem.

When a doctor shows you you’re sick and tells you you’re sick, chronically, then this is the belief, the seed, that gets planted in your mind. And from that moment you believe and see yourself, unwillingly and unknowingly, as chronically ill.

Instantly a new identity is created that is so strong and powerful, it is then from that moment how you see yourself.

The ‘trick’, or better put, our loving practise is to know and see ourselves beyond the experience of illness. Beyond this false identity.

You and I are SO much more.

Chronic illness is simply put something we experience. But it is not who we are. Nor does chronic illness define us.

Our loving practise is to see and keep believing in our true nature and values. Our innate state of being: spiritual beings filled with love, passion, joy and purpose. Here to create and add to the world through our unique gifts and talents.

And let’s not forget, to enjoy ourselves.

This can only truly be experienced when we express our perfect authentic selves. And yes, I use the word perfect. Because you and I are perfect exactly the way we are and who we are meant to be.

You can only be you. And I can only be me.

And this is how it is meant to be. This is our natural state of being through which we experience joy.

So, let the label of chronic illness be something no more than what you experience. And no more than that.

You define who you are.

Do you feel defined by chronic illness? Please share your comment below. I’d love to hear from you!


  • Hi Nicole. I definitely feel defined by chronic illness as I can’t seem to move past it. I know I need to meet it and embrace how I feel but I’m finding it so very difficult. Just when I think I’ve got the hang of it I wake up with terrible swelling and stiffness caused by my “Rheumatoid Arthritis”. As it starts to progressively travel around my body the fear and hopelessness moves in. Then my memory goes to how it was when it was in my right foot, and how I couldn’t walk seven years ago, and now it’s going into my left foot and I become overwhelmed with the fear and memories. I feel as though I’m just waiting for the disability that I experienced seven years ago to start all over again. Any soothing advice would be greatly appreciated!

  • Hi Toni, thanks for reaching out. I hear you and feel your sense of overwhelm and fear. The desire to move past RA, yet experiencing it as difficult, is first of all very recognisable and also very common in our journey of learning to embrace where we are and how the past has been. What I am sensing is a resistance to the experience and emotions of not being able to ‘succeed’ in ‘moving past’ the RA, as well as the mind created fear about a possible negative future. All are understandable emotional reactions. None of us are free from these types of reactions. My love-intended advice is to embrace not the RA directly (not put the focus on that), but instead the emotions that lie underneath your experience when you’re experiencing a relapse (the fear, the overwhelm, finding it difficult, frustration or sadness about not being able to move past it). When embracing the emotions at hand, the mind is not occupied with, nor focused on, (healing) the illness. And this can be very helpful, and an essential part in fact, of creating healing on a deep level. The ‘trick’ here is to let go of the results in healing. In my own experience this not the easiest thing to do 😉 , as the mind likes to be over-active and be in control as soon and as much as possible. But I have a special report and audio I specifically designed for this process to help make it easier, and you can download it for free: . With regards to the future, the fear the mind projects isn’t the absolute truth about what will happen, despite what happened in the past. It is a possibility, but there is an infinite amount of different possible outcomes too. It can help to keep that in mind. As much as you can, stay aware and present with your ‘here-and-now’ emotions, be kind to yourself and how you feel, and get the best possible (medical)care that’s right for you. Much love to you.

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