When you want to become pregnant and have rheumatoid arthritis you can be dealing with a lot of questions and concerns. If and what medications to take? When to start getting pregnant? Is it wise to have a baby at all? What are the chances of getting pregnant with rheumatoid arthritis?
Many women with rheumatoid arthritis who want to become pregnant have many questions concerning a possible pregnancy. Mainly about what medication they can take and what possible harmful consequences there are for the baby.
Making the decision to become pregnant is challenging enough. With rheumatoid arthritis the stress levels and apprehensions can turn up quite a few notches and it can seem an impossible task from the beginning. But although the medical statistics may not seem in your favour, don’t give up just yet. There are plenty of women with rheumatoid arthritis who have successfully become pregnant and are now enjoying being a parent.
Here are some holistic guidelines you can consider that can help you relieve stress and overwhelm and help you make the best decision for you:
- Consult with specialists. Consult with your rheumatologist and gynaecologist. Have them work together so there is a clear support plan for you. It happens often that specialists will have different opinions about medications and when to stop medications before pregnancy. Express your concerns and desires. Ask them to liaise with one another and agree so you are clear about what you can and want to do.
- Create a plan. A good rheumatologist will guide you with this and will break it down for you in sections. The plan of action before, during and after the pregnancy. As you are now aware of the possible steps you can take, you can make your decision to go ahead or not.
- Take it in steps. Prepare yourself as much as you can and yet do not think ahead too much. In other words, do not concern yourself with things that may or may not happen 3, 6 or even 12 months from now. With rheumatoid arthritis you never know what’s in store, so relax as much as you can.
- Use setbacks to your advantage. There may be some tough times, but something good can come out of a negative experience. Through setbacks you can become extra clear about your options and the direction you want to go in.
- Go within. Trust your inner guidance. Listen to your heart. No one feels what you feel. You can have specialists, people on forums and loved ones inform you about your chances of getting pregnant, but no one can guide you better than your own inner voice. Specialists give you information based on facts, but they cannot (ever!) predict an outcome!
- Pray. Ask the universe, ask your inner being to guide you every step of the way. Know that your prayer is heard and you are being guided. You will feel calmer and more connected to yourself. This is a place you can always turn to especially when things seem tough.
Even if you think your chances of getting pregnant with rheumatoid arthritis seem limited and the statistics seem against you, check with yourself what decision you are most happy with? Are you happy not giving pregnancy a chance or giving pregnancy a chance? Looking back on your life in a few years’ time, what will be the most peaceful decision for you?
Spiritually and holistically speaking, statistics don’t mean a thing. If it is meant to be it will be. Take the steps you feel are right for you and your baby, trust in your decision and surrender to what will be. Your chances of getting pregnant with rheumatoid arthritis are as good as anyone’s.