The other week I saw a video of a young woman sharing with the viewers what it was like to live with rheumatoid arthritis. A brave and warm hearted effort to raise awareness about RA. One of the things she pointed out was that just because she could no longer do all the things she used to do merely meant she was now living a ‘new normal’.
During the ever changing nature of rheumatoid arthritis there are times your mind goes back to how it used to be. It reminds you how you can’t participate in (certain) sports activities or work the hours you used to. Your mind is comparing what is with what was and is judging it to be wrong, worse or not ‘normal’.
The self-criticism and fear of how others will now view and accept you can be intense and immense. The comparison of your life to those around you can cause some serious heartache and low self-esteem.
But what this young woman said is so spot on. Because what is ‘normal’ anyway? There are all kinds of standards and ways of living. All of which are ‘normal’.
So let’s start embracing this new normal. Normal with rheumatoid arthritis. There are still things you can do. And perhaps this means letting go of some old things and enjoying learning and doing entirely new things.
Also, more importantly I feel, is that you realise you are validated. You are worthy, with rheumatoid arthritis.
Despite the differences between the past and present, allowing your own value, your own unique loving presence, your place here in this world is not only essential, but mostly and simply true.
With or without rheumatoid arthritis, you are the embodiment of eternal and unconditional love. There is nothing you need to prove to the universe. There is nothing you need to do (read prove) to be valuable and to be loved.
When you allow yourself to feel and embrace this unconditional love that the universe feels for you and holds true for you, you allow yourself to be you- with rheumatoid arthritis.
Your authenticity is what you came here for. Your authenticity is what is loving and loved.
This way you can embrace and enjoy this new normal. You understand that this normal is just another normal and just as much worthy and valuable as any other. You can stop the fight. You can stop attacking yourself.
Allow yourself to open up to this soft and gentle energy, this unconditional love, to flow through you, which in turn will allow you to shine and share your uniqueness. Give yourself this self-loving hug filled with self-acceptance, self-worth and a great big smile.
What you can or can no longer do does not determine your worthiness. There is nothing you ‘should’ do.
Live from your heart, embrace your authenticity and know that that is enough.